Healthy Boundaries Through Accountability

Healthy Boundaries

Some days, colorful appointments and reminders fill my e-calendar. Other days, it is just a blank white space with nothing scheduled.

I check my schedule for the day. I have two choices. I can act on my plans and make them happen. Or, I can decide they are not important and leave them unfinished.

I can choose to hold myself accountable and NOT fill in the day with meaningless busy work when the day’s schedule allows. The larger question might be: why do we set goals and commitments for ourselves at all? Is it to create Healthy Boundaries?

What does our level of accountability to ourselves and others even say about us? According to Brenee’ Brown, “...accountability is a gateway to trust….” And I know that building trust is a key way to creating and sustaining healthy relationships and Healthy Boundaries.

The MomProof Podcast focuses largely on relationships and accountability in those relationships. We started our MomProof journey in Spring 2023, and our strong bond showed the importance of our message.

We wanted to be open with each other. We needed to share our fears and worries.

Our daughters were about to go to college. We wanted to help each other learn new ways to keep our relationships strong. We also wanted to improve ourselves as moms and women.

Accountability

We realized that our parenting journey included both good and bad times. Throughout arguments and hugs, we focused on valuing our relationships. We made sure to hold each other accountable for improvement, and most importantly, we hold ourselves accountable too.

How does one stay accountable and track self improvement? Do we set ‘new year resolutions’, hire personal trainers, or use task lists that we can physically check off as we go? Yes, perhaps these hacks can help us stay accountable.

Knowing what motivates you and who you are accountable to is essential for personal growth, especially when parenting intentionally.

Enneagram

To start understanding what drives you, try taking the Enneagram personality test. It is a system that sorts people into personality types.

It shows how people see the world and handle their feelings. There are nine Enneagram Personality Types.

Each type has its own main motivations and fears. These motivations and fears guide their actions and choices. (www.truity.com)

This free assessment helps us understand what stops us from succeeding. It also shows what helps us succeed. We can learn how to interact with different personality types. This can lead on a path to find joy, love, strong relationships and helps us achieve results.

We know that being intentional in our relationships can improve or harm our efforts with those we love. Yet do we know HOW to parent from a place that honors our true strengths while enhancing those we’re in relationship with? This season, MomProof aims to help us improve ourselves as women first, and then as parents, caregivers, and partners.

Being accountable to someone is important for personal development. This is especially true for improving parenting skills, tools and Healthy Boundaries.

Choose someone to be your main contact. This person will help keep you on track.

Meet with them regularly to check your progress. Not only will there be someone to help you stay focused on your goal, but you will also build trust in that relationship! Win-win!